What Being a Mum Has Taught Me?

I have thought long and hard about this, what has being a Mum taught me?

Honestly, hand on heart I am not the person I was pre children. Having the boys has changed me in so many ways. Yes, deep down I am still me, but a better version of me most definitely, not that I was awful before, but I just didn’t get first time gushy Mums.

I am from a huge family where there is a new baby every year. I was quite matter of fact about them, took them for granted almost like having good food in the cupboard. There were always babies around, I loved them all, but they were everywhere.

What being a Mum has taught me

So when my friends started having babies I will be honest Judged them thought they are all a bit gushy, OTT about these lovely babies. Then everything changed and I had my own, and all of a sudden I got it.

So how has it change me?

I became less judgmental, pre baby I remember willing a friend to go home, losing the will to live as she spent half an hour telling me why the shape of her baby’s head was so perfect arghhh. Post baby I accepted this was her motherly pride, and loved her for it.

I realised that yes a clean home was important, but a show home isn’t always achievable. Don’t get me wrong, a messy house still stresses me out. But spending time with my family is far more important. The pre baby me would have hyperventilating at the skateboard that lives in our hallway these days. Now I accept it, that’s where it lives.

Although I did flip last week when I caught Chris, yes Chris a grown man skateboarding in the lounge like it was normal. No wonder the boys think it’s acceptable if their role model skateboards across the lounge grrrr.

Being a proud mum of boys


I am much more open-minded, each to their own is my new mantra. Pre babies I would judge someone on first glance.

Watching the boys grow up and forge un-biased friendships has made me realise that friends come in all shapes and sizes and from all walks of life. I love how kids don’t judge; it is such a beautiful quality.

Fear, this is a funny one. You never stop worrying do you? I worried when I was expecting them, let’s get to 12 weeks, right now 20, right now full term and relax they are here, I can relax now. What planet was I on? That’s where it all began; weaning, asthma, eczema, pneumonia, chicken pocks, diabetes, which nursery, School, High School. Blimey the list goes on and on.

car2-2- Being a mum and having a growing family

Following this is bravery because let’s face it that little lot above is enough to make you want to wrap your kids in cotton wool and lock them in a room. So as parents you fight through with a smile on your face and at times fight as hard as you can to make things right. Tell your children it will all be alright and positivity and believing it the way forward.

Pride, it’s not just the big things is it? It’s the little thing they do and say.

Things that highlight you are getting it right (most of the time) When people tell you what fun they are to be around, what great company they are. When they bring letters home from school about their good behaviour or test results that they have worked really hard for. Or just those times when they do or say something kind.IMG_7247

And last but not least unconditional love. There is nothing better is there? My little family may not be perfect in somebody else’s eyes. But beauty is in the eye of the beholder and to me they are all perfect. With all their chaos, mud, bickering and football, I love going home at the end of the day to my chaotic, manic life.

And I hope when they are adults they will look back on their childhood, on life lessons, family times and all those memories with fondness just like I know Chris and I will.

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  1. 20th May 2015 / 12:46 pm

    Love it. Parenting made me a nervous wreck. But each small success taught me that it would usually turn out ok, so I’ve learned to go with that, and take every hurdle as it comes, without worrying about the one after 🙂

    • SarahJChristie
      21st May 2015 / 4:09 pm

      Ha ha me to Helen and we have had our fair share of hurdles havent we?I think learnig all these tough lessons makes you more chilled x

  2. 20th May 2015 / 4:15 pm

    Such a lovely post. Becoming a mum actually made me appreciate women more and I’m more tolerant and forgiving now. Before having the boys, I worked in quite a testosterone-fuelled corporate environment so was a little bit on the abrupt side and made a lot of decisions based on fact rather than feeling/intuition … almost the opposite of what I’ve since become. I’m much more relaxed now and do a lot more on instinct. It’s strange how you change.

    • SarahJChristie
      21st May 2015 / 4:13 pm

      Thank you Rachel and yes you are so right, I work in Hairdressing so it had been very over competitive at times over the years, it really toughened me up. Having the boys has softened me x

  3. 22nd May 2015 / 9:33 pm

    Such a beautiful post! “It takes all sorts” is my new mantra. Parenting has definitely made me a lot more tolerant x #TheList

    • SarahJChristie
      22nd May 2015 / 9:56 pm

      Thank you Natasha that is so lovely, and yes it does take all sorts its amazing how parenting changes you x

  4. 25th May 2015 / 6:13 pm

    I worried all the way through my pregnancy, but you are so right it never stops! Great post honey. Thanks so much for linking up to #TheList x

    • SarahJChristie
      25th May 2015 / 9:24 pm

      Thanks Aby, yes it never stops does it, thank goodness being a parent is so rewarding x

  5. 26th May 2015 / 10:02 am

    What a lovely post. I have only just started out on the journey with my 5 month old and yes, the worrying has only just begun! But I am so looking forward to the many more years of pride and good fun. Having your own family does completely change everything and you realise what is really important in life. Like you, I find it difficult to get on with a messy house but I am gradually becoming a little more laid back! 🙂

    • SarahJChristie
      26th May 2015 / 11:19 am

      Ha ha you have to be more laid back or it would drive you mad wouldn’t it, yes being a Mum is so rewarding , yet challenging ha ha x

  6. 26th May 2015 / 10:11 am

    The skateboard incident would be something that would happen here too lol. I’ve worried every pregnancy wondering what life will hold for us… what will I learn this time but I just take each day as it is. Lovely post. Love the cake pic, little man is dying for a slice haha x

    • SarahJChristie
      26th May 2015 / 11:22 am

      Ah thank you ,yes you are s right you cant change what is going to happen you just have to overcome and adopt don’t you ? x

  7. 29th May 2015 / 12:50 am

    This is such a lovely post, a family really does change the way we look at the world around us and also what we see as important in life. BTW I almost didn’t recognise you with dark hair lol Thanks for linking up with #sundaystars xxx

    • SarahJChristie
      31st May 2015 / 5:01 pm

      Thanks Katie, yes it does really change how you see things doesn’t it? x

  8. 30th May 2015 / 1:33 pm

    Aaah this is such a lovely post Sarah! I didn’t want children when I was younger — I just didn’t *get* the whole baby thing at all. Then I hit 30 and the biological clock started shouting!!

    It took SO long for us to have our babies and the journey to motherhood (let alone *actual* motherhood) has changed me immeasurably. Now I absolutely understand what a privilege it is to be a mother. I’m beyond grateful to have been given that opportunity. Thanks so much for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday x

    Caro | http://www.thetwinklediaries.co.uk

    • SarahJChristie
      31st May 2015 / 5:05 pm

      Thank you Caro, yes its incredible how it changes you isnt it x

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