Managing Work,Family, life and Blogging

If you had have asked me how busy I was a year ago? I would have said far too busy, having a very active social life, 2 very busy children, a husband, dog and .8 position as a hairdressing lecturer. I would have said there are not enough hours in the day; I have no time to myself.
Yet here I am writing a daily post for my blog, my 4th Child. Its weird this time last year I felt like I was drowning with all I had to do. So what did I do? I started a blog, something that required more time and effort than I was already giving. Another ball to add to the 50 I was already juggling. 
Yet it seems to have had a positive effect on my life, almost therapeutic. I have always struggled with time management, I am one of those people that is so easily distracted so will set off on a task or a job, but half way through will come across another and complete that instead. My blog has taught me to write things down, prioritise tasks. 
It has taught me to leave work, at work. I used to always bring it home with me, potter at home on resources, and ponder over events of the day. I am now able to complete my workload at work, yes someday this means working through my lunch; but I am not bringing it home. And when I leave work unless it is urgent I don’t think about it until the next day. This has had such a positive effect on my work life, as I generally do not worry about work related issues at home as I just don’t have the time. 
I prioritise family life, yes there are times when I am checking emails, I try to do this whilst cooking dinner, or when they are in bed. We have a ban on any type of social media over dinner, no Mail-online, phones, twitter, snapchat, Instagram or email. 


This works well as it gives us all quality time to sit together, discuss our day and make plans together. Sometimes I look back on a day and think, argh I haven’t given the boys enough time.  I haven’t sat with them one to one and chatted. I wonder if I have fully answered Joe’s never ending stream of questions. But most Mums suffer guilt don’t they?
 Can we ever give our children enough of our time, probably not? But I don’t want to sit back when they have left home, and think, I should have spent more time with them, I should have played Lego more, or drawn more pictures. What I need is a housekeeper to cook, clean and do the everlasting stream of washing. Well, a girl can dream cant she?
So when all that is done, I blog, but it does not feel like a chore, I look forward to sitting down and writing, I love taking photos and recording memories and feel that writing is therapeutic. Once I start I seem to get in a zone, a chilled out happy place where I am not thinking about facts and figures. It sounds ridiculous but I feel like I have had a massage when I have been writing. Like all the stresses of the day leave me. I used write my posts on my phone when everyone is sat watching T.V. Generally football, which I have no interest in what so ever. 
Then edit it after on my MAC this way I was not sitting in a different room from my family. Even though they are all engrossed in football. At least I am in the room with them and able to be involved in non-football related conversations. But Chris bought me a mac book for my birthday; I can’t believe how much this has helped.

I suppose it is all about balance, managing time and scheduling all the hats you wear so you can wear them one at a time rather than juggling them. Blogging has definitely helped me to do this most of the time and achieve a happy balance, and do you know what? I watch less T.V if that has been the compromise in my life, not watching 2 hours of T.V an evening, generally football! Then I can’t complain. 

19 Comments

  1. 25th October 2014 / 1:18 pm

    Great post lovely and you are right we all suffer the guilt but it sounds like you are managing perfectly well to me. I love being busy, can’t stand being stagnant. But WOWSERS you are super busy and I love your blog so make sure you don’t stop! 😉 xxxx

  2. 25th October 2014 / 4:44 pm

    Fab post! You are superwoman to be able to do all you do and write so brilliantly x

  3. Seychelles mama
    26th October 2014 / 9:13 am

    You’re right there is definitely something therapeutic about blogging isn’t there!! A nice way to reflect on events of the day, makes you look at the lovely pictures you’ve taken etc!

    • 26th October 2014 / 10:36 am

      Yes the other day I looked back though all my blog pictures, I felt a bit tearful at what a wonderful year we have had so far x

  4. LittleTreasurestts
    26th October 2014 / 9:40 am

    I’ve found this tough lately, as a fairly new blogger I think I just need to get into a routine with it. 2nd baby due in 3 weeks so already worrying it’s all going to go out the window! But I agree it’s definitely theraputic and I love writing about all the brilliant things the little one gets upto. Just need to start getting a bit more organised I think 🙂

    • 26th October 2014 / 10:37 am

      I am finding it help to have an allocated time to blog, but its not always that easy is it x

  5. 26th October 2014 / 11:58 am

    You are my hero. You have a busy life, a family to look after, a job – AND your blog is super-duper! Hats off to you. You are amazing. Great post. And thanks for linking up to #SundayStars this week xxxx

    • 26th October 2014 / 3:29 pm

      Ha ha thanks Jess, thats lovely and means a lots, and do you know what I love your blog too and you are just as busy but in a different way x

  6. JoyandPops
    26th October 2014 / 4:42 pm

    I have been juggling with this exact issue recently – working from home alongside my husband and with our two daughters it always seems like I’m expected to be doing something else. I enjoy writing my blog but I do feel very squeezed for time. Great post. Xx

    • 27th October 2014 / 8:18 pm

      Thanks Joy and Yes there just isn’t enough hours in the day is there x

  7. 26th October 2014 / 7:17 pm

    I think you have bit the nail on the head, it works for me that I don’t get too stressed about work as I am actually thinking about something else on an evening. Thanks for linking up with #sundaystars come and join us again next week.

    • 27th October 2014 / 8:18 pm

      Thanks Karen, yes its amazing what a welcome distraction blogging can be x

  8. hslater
    26th October 2014 / 7:19 pm

    I only started blogging 2 weeks ago and already finding it really relaxing, I love reading other blogs and writing my own posts too!
    Its nice to step back sometimes and see what we are doing with our time, and are we happy with how we are spending it.

    • 27th October 2014 / 8:20 pm

      Yes, it is so relaxing, keep at it , it is such a rewarding hobby x

  9. 27th October 2014 / 7:57 pm

    finding a balance is hard, I agree and it sounds like you’re doing a great job!
    #sundaystars x

    • 27th October 2014 / 8:21 pm

      Thanks Sarah, but its a balancing act isn’t it x

  10. The Lazy Housewife
    19th May 2015 / 10:30 am

    Great to hear how someone else manages their time to fit in the blog. I struggle to find time to get one post a week written, but am still in the habit of sitting in front of the TV when both children are in bed, and usually fall asleep at that point. Am finding having a newborn helps though as I write my blogs on my phone while he feeds. I will be taking on board some of your time management tips though.

    • SarahJChristie
      SarahJChristie
      Author
      19th May 2015 / 9:53 pm

      Ah Thank you, Do you know if I sit to watch TV I fall asleep, but if I blog I stay awake xx

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