Labels, How Do They Define Us?

This week on striking Mums the lovely Kate has set the subject of Mums and Labels, a provocative subject that can be the making of breaking of a person. 
I am writing this on a Friday night, and today a label devastated and humiliated me. It was an honest label, one that meant I and others have work to do, but one that reduced me to tears, you see I care so much about that label,  so when I sat and saw it on the wall I can’t describe the despair and devastation I felt. I can’t say more than that without being unprofessional. But I do care, so do the people around me, maybe a little too much. 
That’s my problem I wear my heart on my sleeve, so on occasions like today I can’t hide my feelings. I am not a negative person in life at all, but I do take my responsibilities very seriously. 
By responsibilities I mean my family, friends, home, Toby and my students.  Kick them, or my judgment around them I most certainly limp. 
Its like Kate has a sixth sense when choosing these topics? So here are her questions.
1. If I gave you a label and pinned it to you and you were allowed to put just 3 words on it, which would you choose?
Wife and Mum, Yes there is more to me than these labels but I am who I am because of these labels, happy, passionate, have great friends, content. You see my relationship with Chris and the Boys is the foundation of a life we have built family, friends and experiences around.
Blogger, My new passion in my life, the thing that keeps me up at night happily tapping away on keys, and the only thing that could get me up at 6am on a Sunday. I honestly feel that writing is something I wish I had done all my life. But thank goodness I have found it at last.
Don’t get me wrong, I have no regrets I have loved every minute of my hairdressing career. I feel proud of what I have achieved, and hope I will continue to inspire future creative and theatrical stylists. I love the fact that one day they will hopefully remember me as an inspiration. I know how my students feel about me, and that is something I am incredibly proud of. 
2. What labels that others have used about you do you think are spot on?
Fiery, I am passionate and honest. I can’t hide from that. 
Traveller, I love travel and all my friends and family laugh at me, as it does border on an obsession. I want to show the Boys the world; it has so many lessons to teach them.
3. Has having a particular label ever got you into trouble or held you back?
No I don’t think so, but maybe that is something I don’t know about?
4. Does or did one of your labels mark you out as very different from others in your circles?
Yes people call me cockney Sarah up here; ha ha I have never lived in London and have never claimed too. But that how people define, remember me so that’s fine.
5. Which label are you particularly proud of?
Mum, Wife, Daughter, Sister, Auntie, Granddaughter, God Mother, Niece, Daughter-in-law Cousin, Sister-in-law, Friend, Teacher. Blogger, Hairdresser. These are the things that matter.
So there is it labels, they might only be a tiny word or number but it can have a colossal effect on a person’s life, labels can define us or hold us back. 

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  1. kateonthinice
    27th October 2014 / 11:52 am

    You always leave me wanting to know more which means you can add interesting to your labels. I like that you choose the loving relationships labels as those you are proud of. I don’t like the idea of that smile slipping from your face so take care of you with whatever challenges are going on at the moment.

    • 27th October 2014 / 8:32 pm

      Thank you Kate, I am lucky to have such wonderful people around me, and as for the challenge only time will tell x

  2. 27th October 2014 / 2:24 pm

    So sorry that you were hurt by a label last week: it seems that it’s always those who wear their hearts on their sleeves that get hurt xx

    • 27th October 2014 / 8:32 pm

      Ah thanks you and yes thats true, I just wish I was better at hiding my feelings sometimes x

  3. 27th October 2014 / 5:43 pm

    Whoever hurt you is nasty!! However, those labels that you chose are lovely and I agree that these are the ones that really matter. Fab post 🙂 Jess xx

    • 27th October 2014 / 8:34 pm

      Ah thank you Jess, and yes family and friends are much more important x

    • 28th October 2014 / 10:46 pm

      Ah thanks Karen , I need to toughen up a bit I think, but sometimes its hard x

  4. Katie Humphrey
    27th October 2014 / 11:53 pm

    I’m sorry that someone upset you and I hope you can work to right whatever needs to be fixed.
    The labels you have used to define yourself are the most important although I would add helpful, kind and considerate to your list also xxx

    • 28th October 2014 / 10:48 pm

      ah thank you Katie thats lovely, yes I think I am getting my head round it, and yes you are so right there are more important things x

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